Acceptance Means Never Having to Say You're Disappointed
Disappointment means we haven't accepted that the person who disappointed us is not, in fact, us.
View ArticleShame on You! Do You Use Shame to Control Others?
Shaming others is a way we can often get people to do what we want, but is it worth it?
View ArticleThe Danger of Letting Others Define You
When we feel that we only fit into one definition - when we believe how others define us or when we define ourselves narrowly - we lose parts of ourselves or feel that we can't give voice to parts that...
View ArticleIs Happiness Even the Point?
Why is happiness so important, and is it, in fact, even sustainable? And if we were happy all of the time, how would we learn to surf the waves of our emotions, and to gracefully dance with our shadows?
View ArticleWhat Does It Mean to Be Mentally Healthy?
For World Mental Health Day, let's cultivate compassionate self-awareness for ourselves and others who struggle with staying balanced.
View ArticleYou're Not Ugly, and Neither Was I
If you struggle with telling yourself a story that you're ugly, consider changing that story. It's painful in the extreme to think that we're too ugly to live our best lives, yet so many of us feel...
View ArticleThe Power of Letting Go
The other side of the coin of the fear of letting go is the jubilation when we spread our wings and fly.
View ArticleSo, What's Your Story?
Are the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves healthy or harmful?
View ArticleThe Truth About Manifesting Your Dreams
Manifesting isn't magic; it's just what happens when you follow your own soul home.
View ArticleIn Defense of Men
This culture isn't very nice to men. How can we all create a culture that's friendlier and more forgiving of men?
View ArticleIs a Meaningful Public Dialogue Possible After This?
We all have strong opinions about our recent national tragedy; can we allow others to say what they have to say, and create a positive, meaningful national dialogue?
View ArticleI Heart the Apocalypse
The apocalypse shows us what's important, even if we don't (really) believe it.
View ArticleThe Real, True, Honest to Goodness Key to Happiness
The key to happiness is an ancient secret that's not so secret, but it's very hard to do!
View ArticleCan The Good Guys Ever Win in the War of the Sexes?
A man who approaches a woman is creepy if she isn't attracted him, but not if she is.
View ArticleA Valentine's Day Musing
Love, as we also all know, is wider than the love between a couple of people who have sex together.
View ArticleWhy Hasn't a Man Snatched You Up Yet?
I've had a wonderful life and lots of great adventures in love. And I'm ready for an LTR. Now.
View ArticleThe Problem with “Follow Your Dreams”
Is it really possible for most of us to 'follow our dreams'? And what if our passion is to be right here, right now? A criticism of a common inspirational meme.
View ArticleIs It Time for a New Paradigm of Relationships?
What are relationships for? They're for challenging and supporting each partner in his or her - and her and his - self growth.
View ArticleThe Truth About the Trayvon Martin Case
Trayvon Martin was shot because he was a young black man
View ArticleBreakups as Breakthroughs
What if breakups aren't failures, but are quantum leaps instead?
View ArticleWhy Boys Belong in the Kitchen and Girls in the Garage
Men and women need to have the skills to survive in the new age—beyond gender stereotypes
View ArticleWriting for the Self-Help Consumer, Pt 1
Probably the biggest mistake I hear when I communicate with potential authors about their books is the author misunderstanding who their audience is.
View ArticleWriting for the Self-Help Consumer, Pt 2
With good organization, there’s no more staring anxiously at a blank page because you don’t know what to write next. What to write next is in the outline!
View ArticleSo You Want to Write a Book
You know you can do it, but there’s a little niggling sense of “What if I’m not good enough?” or “I don’t know how to write a book” or “I’m too busy..."
View ArticleThe Importance of Storytelling in Creative Work
By sharing and being vulnerable, we give our community permission to share and be vulnerable and connect with us.
View ArticleA Valentine's Musing
So today, can those of us who can see beyond the media and retail hype of this day use the ubiquitous heart symbols to remember to appreciate and generate love of all kinds?
View ArticleDepression in the Workplace: Can We Do Better?
The struggle of trying to pretend everything is normal at work when it most definitely is not can add to the mental health problems and can make them worse.
View ArticleBreak the Bad Relationship Habit
What if there was a way to end the habit of entering into destructive, unfulfilling, or high-conflict relationships?
View ArticleWhy "Tech Shaming" Is Wrong and Ableist
Contrary to common perception, technology use supports social connection.
View ArticleWhat If It's Okay to Feel Bad?
It doesn’t mean you’re weak. It doesn’t mean you’re incompetent. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. It doesn’t mean you’re a failure.
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